"Hey, sis! It's 2024, and if you're hoping to find a man who ticks off every item on your checklist, you might be waiting a long time. I'm not saying you shouldn't have standards or deal-breakers, but the truth is that sometimes you just won't find everything you're looking for. There's no "build a man" store, and even dating profiles can't capture the full personality of a person. So keep an open mind and don't be too hard on yourself or others in the search for love."
If you find yourself struggling with this dilemma then this is the perfect article for you
In today's dating world, the term "high value" is widely used to describe an ideal partner. People often \come up with various criteria to define what a high-value man is. However, many tend to focus on external factors such as income, physical appearance, and qualifications. While these may make for a successful individual, they do not necessarily guarantee a good match or potential life partner.
It's important to prioritize finding a partner who values morals and character, despite having a good resume and achievements. I want to encourage women to have high standards and seek out men who contribute positively to their lives. While it's okay to make adjustments to what one wants in a partner, settling for less should be avoided. It's crucial not to become resentful towards men due to waiting too long to find someone who meets one's expectations. This can lead to the belief that true love doesn't exist or that there aren't any good men left, which is far from the truth and unfair to all the good men out there.
By the way, it’s best to avoid comparing oneself to social media and reality couples and striving to reach their level because I feel like a lot of you guys base your views on that as the standard.
Another thing that’s giving you the wrong influence of finding a mate is you are comparing your situation with someone else’s. Do you know the comparison is the thief of joy? You may be dating someone who has a good salary, takes you out on dates, and pays you compliments. But your home girl’s man just flew her to Dubai now you discredit your experience all because of what someone else did. P.S. You never know what goes on behind closed doors or what somebody had to go through to get something.
Sis, please don’t think you’re settling just because you have to adjust or take different routes to achieve the love you want. If you feel like you’re settling let me break it down to let you know what settling means in terms of dating.
Settling is a huge downgrade! Entering a situation with someone is more of a liability than an asset to your life. When you find yourself going backward from things you overcame or already achieved is settling. If you have to constantly downgrade to be on his level and that’s the only way you can equally thrive then that’s settling sis and I don’t want that for you
What I want for you is to know that real love and good men still exist but there’s there are distractions that make it seem as if it doesn’t. Use your provisions and insight. As always the more you love yourself the more likely you are to attract those who love you. Also, when you love yourself you’re willing to love others and discern when it’s worth giving someone a chance.
Are you sabotaging your chances of finding a great relationship by being too rigid with your checklist? Don't let your expectations hold you back from what could be an amazing connection. Keep an open mind and give people a chance, you never know what surprises might come your way. Remember, true love doesn't always fit into a neat little box.
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Tiffany T.
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