Why is it so hard to date as a Black Woman in 2022?
Era Differences
Different Respect Level
The terminology is different- men didn’t openly call women bitches like they do now and women almost became accepting of it.
We are in a what can you do for me culture
Exchange for goods and services type of relationship. If a man wants to date a women or be with her it’s almost seems as if he has to pay his way
“Stripper and Scammers Culture
False relationship goals For example Cardi B & Offset as well has other rappers, and black influencers that are deemed successful young black couples from the hood who glamorize their struggle love and project it throughout mainstream
The internet & Social Media Being our primary news source.
We follow trends
When we look for love it’s easy to find what caters to our insecurities
We look to public figures as the new leaders and role models and are influenced by their relationship views not understanding we are ultimately going by what we see but don’t really know
Women’s values are different now
Independent-sometimes too independent where they end potential relationships based on one mistake or incident. Love and marriage not being such as priority now because they are more educated and career driven
Some people looking are looking for love while people are looking for what they can get -lack of sincerity
We follow superficial goals
Lack is commitment-more baby showers than weddings
The problem between men and women
Black Men and Women are categorized
When looking for a man it seems as if your picking from these types of groups
The Bad Boys -Scammers,rappers, trappers, men that typically get a lot of easy money
The successful black men-good job,executives -but some of them don’t black women unless they are on their level but have to compete with women of other races
Men that ate somewhere in between
“Good black Men are a rarity”
Falsified perceptions of black women
Being opinionated means we’re angry
Being flirtatious means we’re promiscuous
Wanting nice things from our mate means we’re gold diggers
Statistics
30% of African Americans were married compared to 43% of Hispanics, 52% of whites and 58%of Asians
50% of African Americans have never been married
In 2018 48% of black women have never been married up from 44% in 2008 & 42.7% in 2005
( According to blackdemographics.com by way of the U.S Census Bureau 2019 American Community Survey)
My personal perspective
I would like to see more people, especially African American couples get married. I understand it isn't easy but it just pours back into the culture. I believe marriage in the black community means more solidarity.
I feel we have to tap into reality when dating and finding out what’s gonna work for us. As well as knowing the energy of what you put out there is what we get Back
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